This is my Girl Boss Moment. It’s the final week of voting for the Best of C-VILLE, and Darling is up for THREE categories this year – Consignment Store, Female-owned Business, and Place for a Dress. And, call it wearing-your-confidence-until-your-feel-it, I decided to own my boss-ness by wearing it in this Shop Girl Style shoot.
Even saying that – “own my boss-ness” – has such an odd sound to me. Some days, I still can’t believe I actually am a Girl Boss, that I own my own shop, that I am living this life (somebody pinch me). And some days, I still doubt that I belong among the ranks of Boss Babes in Cville and beyond. Doubt can be crippling… if you let it.
“Don’t compare your hustle to their highlight reel.” This is a quote from the Girl Boss herself, Sophia Amoruso, founder of Nasty Gal and author of the book #Girlboss. And it’s something every female entrepreneur out there needs to remember – doubt and comparison are traps; don’t fall for them. Affirmations, encouragement, selflessness, humility, vulnerability, women-empowering-women – that’s where your focus should be. Change your perspective, darlings. It may seem like a silly thing, but I’ve started a collection of “boss” shirts to wear the confidence in a weird and wonderful way when I need to push the doubt away.
What does it mean to be a ‘Girl Boss’?
“A Girl Boss is someone who has big dreams and is willing to work hard for them. So being a Girl Boss is really about being the boss of your own life. You don’t have to be the boss of anyone else to be a Girl Boss.” – Sophia Amoruso interview via Elle
To me, being a Girl Boss has been a journey of taking risks, trusting in God in BIG ways, stewarding the vision well, taking baby steps (going low and slow), failing graciously and learning from it, and being okay with being vulnerable about this #ladybosslife. Sharing the journey, sharing the dream, sharing the real talk with those who are cheering you on in the sidelines, with those who get it – that part keeps you grounded.
For a moment, I laughed sitting in that throne, and said to Tristan, “I am so far outside of my comfort zone, and I love it.” I meant for the shoot, for owning my boss-ness in such a blatant way. But really, what I realized I meant was this entire lady boss life has be out of my comfort zone, that I’ve been pushed and stretched in ways I never imagined I could be – and I’ve been made better by the challenge. Being a Girl Boss really means having the ability to motivate yourself, to not give up when it gets tough (cuz that’s every day), and to keep doing the work. Because it is worth it. 100%.
I’m grateful to say that this has been a season of affirmation for me, for the shop. I’ve been the sole owner of Darling for almost a year now, and being recognized on the Best of C-VILLE ballot for “Female-owned Business” is still surreal. I am honored. I’ve also seen the business grow in big and exciting ways this year so far, and the affirmations of friends, fellow boss babes, and customers has been the wind in my sails. So a big, heartfelt THANK YOU goes out to all of my cheerleaders, near and far. You keep me going when my t-shirts aren’t enough.
How to Vote:
Only one week left to vote! Voting ends June 23rd.
Visit www.c-ville.com/vote/ >>> Shopping Category:
1. Consignment Store
3. Female-owned Business
2. Place for a Dress
On Linnea | Darling Finds: Betsey Johnson kiss kiss sneakers // Linnea’s own: Mango “boss” tshirt / Anthropologie pants / Urban Outfitters sunglasses / J. Crew strawberry earrings
Thanks for making me feel like a total badass, Tristan.